10/90 Principle

Subject: 10/90 Principle September 11th 2008, 1:57 pm

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The 10/90 Principle

Author: Stephen Covey Management Guru

Have you read this before?o

Discover the 10/90 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?o

o10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by
how you react. What does this mean?o

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different.o

You determine the other 90%.o

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.o

Let's use an example.o

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.o

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.o

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.o

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?o

A) Did the coffee cause it?o
B) Did your daughter cause it?o
C) Did the policeman cause it?o
D) Did you cause it?o

The answer is "D"o

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is
what could have and should have happened.o

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.o

Notice the difference?o
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.o

Why? Because of how you REACTED.o
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.o

Here are some ways to apply the 10/90 principle.o

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.o

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.o

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.o

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.o

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.o

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.o

We all must understand and apply the 10/90 principle.o

It CAN change your life

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 11th 2008, 3:20 pm

thanks mahmoud mohamad

for the topic
stress become normal in our life

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 12th 2008, 12:46 am

thanx my friend

i ave read it before and since i read it i try to controll myself

but , some time i find it's defficult to have controll on your self becuaze iam 24/7 angry , shouting.

hhhhh sometime i hate myself

any way thanx mahmoud

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 12th 2008, 4:45 am

B) Did your daughter cause it?

i think yes !! kids always make troubles

u must punch them Very Happy

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 14th 2008, 2:07 pm

try to be easy and cool ya man
thanx to all of u

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 14th 2008, 11:32 pm

wow well that man got a clear way of life n my opinion is getting angry n mad is a part of being human but there are sure levels of reactions according to the situations i mean some pplz get angry at realy stupid small stuff thats why they are just unhappy in their lives!!! so try to get ur anger level to the lowest n if ur a cool man/ woman then well thats just gd!!! :p

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 15th 2008, 4:09 pm

welcome again anonymous

thanx for ur participation

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 16th 2008, 1:06 pm

np n thnx!!

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 19th 2008, 10:05 pm

thanx for the nice story
we realy need this principle, specially in Gaza
ppl r just like bombs about to explode bom

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 19th 2008, 10:27 pm

"ppl r just like bombs about to explode"

hhhhhh
u are welcome

Guest

hhhhh

but really somtimes u need to be coooool
n someother u need to be very straight one with dealing with yours kids n i think mercy mostly come's from allah at that
time
thanks abu deya2 for the great subject

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 20th 2008, 2:38 pm

u are welcome man

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 24th 2008, 11:28 pm

THnxx Bro ..

Subject: Re: 10/90 Principle September 25th 2008, 12:42 am

welcome bro..